My widow girlfriend likes money too much

Dear Aunty, I have a matured working class
widow with 2 children. I started the
relationship with her recently but she likes
money too much; she is too demanding. What
do I do? She knows I’m building and it is
capital intensive. Agreed, that does not stop
me from caring but her salary is more than
enough to sustain her. – A.U.
Dear A.U, it is typical of women to demand
money from a guy who doesn’t look like he’s
going to marry them. I don’t know what’s
running through your girlfriend’s heart, but if
you’re married and you’re just keeping her for
the fun of it, she may want to get all she could
get from you while it lasts. Consciously or
unconsciously, she is in competition with your
wife and she knows that madam gets money
from you, so why shouldn’t she get too? After
all, she gives all the ‘benefits’ you derive from
your wife and maybe even more.
She will keep demanding money from you if
she feels insecure in this relationship until you
sit her down and have a very honest discussion
with her about her life and those of her
children. She’s a widow with vivid memories of
the recent past with another man – good or
bad memories or both. She needs a man who
will love her and reassure her about the
future. The emotions she’s feeling may be a lot
more than the money she’s demanding for, so
handle her with care. Once she’s sure of where
she stands with you, it is either she begins to
support you by not giving you hassles or she
starts asking for more. That will depend on
whether marriage is in the horizon or not.